How To Talk To Somebody About Earth Changes
(That Doesn't Believe)
Few things are quite as frustrating as understanding the need
to prepare physically for Earth changes but the people you care
about most refuse to acknowledge these events. Probably the number
two problem Stan and I are asked about the most is "how do I talk
to someone who doesn't believe?"
How can people deal with fear spawned by Earth changes and numerous
disaster scenarios if they aren't prepared spiritually, mentally
Spiritual preparation we will leave to you as it is the most important and personal
aspect. For many folks, the only way to ease this fear is to have
tangible, physical goods they know they can fall back on. It makes
it more difficult when one person feels the urge to prepare, but
their mate doesn't believe there's a problem or won't face it.
Many, many people have written asking how they can approach their
spouse/friend/family/pastor to wake them up. The following are
broad suggestions, but something for you to consider using. Take
what will work for you and alter anything you wish. You are in
a unique situation so you'll be the best judge how to tackle this
Physical preparation is best accomplished with agreement of your
family or untold strife will result.
How do you decide how family $$ will be spent?
Will you put it in the retirement account or will you put it toward
Will you take that vacation or invest those $$ in camping equipment?
How much are you willing to invest in storable goods and emergency
Before you can even get to this point, unless you live in a home
where Joe spends "his" money his way and Jane spends "her" bucks
her way, some type of agreement must be reached. In order to reach
agreement, you first must have the freedom to discuss these topics.
That's the question we hear most from you ranking right up there
with "where is safe": "my husband/wife/mother/brother thinks it's
all BS, what can I do?
These suggestions will be just that - suggestions.
First, always pray for help and wisdom before you open your mouth. Ask
Second, you have to assess the personality of the person you want to talk
*Are they afraid?
*What gets their attention?
*Do they operate from logic and statistics?
*Do they believe in God and End Times?
*Can you see through what they are saying to what they really
mean? Many times what comes
out of their mouth is different from voicing their real fears.
* How much can you tell them to impress the severity of the situation
yet not force their heads
back into the sand?
*Does "planting a seed or small bite-fulls" work best or does
"full bore, no holds barred, blast
them with everything you got" work best?
*Think back to past important discussions and remember what worked
Third, develop a plan of action. Before we get a heapy-wad of e-mails blasting us for gross over-generalizations,
we're already copping to this. Generally speaking, men operate
from a viewpoint of logic and statistics. If the person you want
to talk with is this type person, the last thing you want to do
is go into the conversation unarmed and/or hysterical. As soon
as hubby gets home from work, screaming "Steve! Steve! We're not going to have any food when we get hit
with an 8.0 earthquake next week!!! What are we going to do???!!!" is not going to cut it. If you want to get a logical person's
attention, approach him/her from that standpoint. This means you're
going to have to do some homework.
If the person is tweaked by science, use the same logical/statistical
approach. Outline how weather is changing; talk about the instability
of the sun that CMEs are up over 400% just from last year, the
new spectral rays being emitted as of 1991; more 6.0+ earthquakes
occurring each decade (per USGS); how new diseases are emerging;
animals are mutating at an unprecedented rate; how weather is
becoming increasingly violent; possible pole shifts due to a variety
of reasons, etc. This approach is definitely going to require
research, but your success depends on how much research time you're
willing to invest. You, in effect, will have to become the expert.
If the person is religious and you're well-versed in the Bible, take a position of Bible prophecy being fulfilled daily. For helps on this, there are many prophecy sites available. We have numerous ones in the Preparedness Links listed under God and Inspiration and many more waiting to be uploaded. There are specific ones addressing just this subject. Additionally, by running a search on the Net for Bible prophecy, you'll come up with enough websites to choke a horse.
Fourth, pick a good time for talking.
Women: do not pounce on your husband the minute he gets home! If you've
ever read John Gray's Women Are From Venus, Men Are From Mars you know most guys need some space, some wind down time after
work. Increasingly this is true of women in the workplace. For
many years, I managed one business of my former spouse. After
problem solving all day, the last thing you want to hear upon
arriving home is more of same.
Men: don't try to get your wife's attention when is she is up to her
eyeballs making dinner, getting ready for work outside the home,
planning "do" lists or during household jobs. Wait till you have
your partner's full attention and make sure they aren't itching to watch the much anticipated
football game or go ona shopping trip. Be considerate and smart.
Fifth, show time!:
1. Tell this person you would like to discuss something very important
to you. Do they have time?
2. Ask them to listen with an open mind.
3. The approach should be non-accusatory, nonjudgmental and as
forthright as you can make it.
4. Present your information in as logical, straightforward manner
5. Anticipate difficult questions. (My former spouse, when trying
to talk to him about this stuff, wanted to
know when the stock market crash and big earthquakes were going
to strike specifically) These are
hard questions. Answer honestly that you don't know but statistically
X,Y, Z show this will happen. So be
prepared. Anticipate difficult questions.
6. At all costs, avoid an argument. No whining and no statements
like "But you NEVER listen!"
7. If your research is lengthy and your partner is showing boredom
or restlessness, don't give that person
more than they can digest in one sitting.
8. Make eye contact often so you know they are "with" you.
9. Ask if they have questions. This is your chance to be an "expert".
If your partner shows signs of receptivity,
suggestion further research together.
10. Thank them for listening with an open mind. Praise and appreciation does
wonders. If you need to double-
back later to finish up, at least the person knows you value their
1. Should I keep trying to talk to friends and family?
- Only you can answer this. Being a hardheaded German/Irish/French
woman, it's not in my nature to ever give up; never quit. I might
change strategy, but as long as we are breathing we have a chance
to make a difference. However, there is a time when you turn a
situation over to God and let him carry "it" the rest of the way.
2. How do I respond to "I'm a Christian; God will take care of
- You may have other, better insight as to what to say, but in both
Matthew 24:13 and Mark 13:13 we are told to "endure to the end" and it's a lot nicer to "endure"
with some provisions. That could be a while and it will be a little
easier with supplies than without, plus there will undoubtedly be others
knocking on your door because they haven't prepared. Additionally, I never read a passage where
God was impressed by slackers.
Scriptural proof is in 1TH 5:1 that we are to be aware of the "times and seasons". To prepare
is supported by the following KJV scripture:
Proverbs 18:15The heart of the prudent getteth knowledge; and the ear of the
wise seeketh knowledge.
Proverbs 6:6-11Go to the ant, thou sluggard; consider her ways, and be wise:
7Which having no guide, overseer, or ruler,
8Provideth her meat in the summer, and gathereth her food in the harvest.
9How long wilt thou sleep, O sluggard? when wilt thou arise out
of thy sleep?
10 Yet a little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands
11 So shall thy poverty come as one that travelleth, and thy want as
an armed man. (KJV)
Proverbs 12:23A prudent man concealeth knowledge: but the heart of fools proclaimeth
Proverbs 13:22-25A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children: and the wealth
of the sinner is laid up for the just.
23 Much food [is in] the tillage of the poor: but there is that is destroyed for want of judgment.
24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him
chasteneth him betimes.
25 The righteous eateth to the satisfying of his soul: but the belly
of the wicked shall want.
Proverbs 14:15-21The simple believeth every word: but the prudent man looketh well to his going.
16 A wise man feareth, and departeth from evil: but the fool rageth, and is
17 He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: and a man of wicked devices is
18 The simple inherit folly: but the prudent are crowned with knowledge.
19 The evil bow before the good; and the wicked at the gates of
20 The poor is hated even of his own neighbour: but the rich [hath]
21 He that despiseth his neighbour sinneth: but he that hath mercy
on the poor, happy is he.
Proverbs 22:3A prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself: but the
simple pass on, and are punished.
3. What if after this talk they still won't listen?
- You've done what you can. If you've made several attempts only
to be met with a loud NO!, then give it a rest, maybe permanently.
Your call. However, if you're both stubborn and determined, consider
putting things aside yourself, even if it means finding a way
to earn a few extra $$ to accomplish this. This is not saying
your partner will never come around and by going ahead with prep
plans, you'll be that much better prepared.
Possibly you know a friend that could also sit in on the discussion.
Sad but true, sometimes a person can "hear" a message better from
a person other than their spouse or immediate family.
4. Should I keep trying to talk to my neighbors and friends?
- Only you can determine this. Stan and I have been doing this so
long, it just comes naturally. Our theory still holds - the more
people who have supplies and are prepared, the less likely they're
going to want yours! Conversation also affords you opportunity
to build community in your neighborhood and within your extended
family. It will definitely be easier to cope on a physical and
mental level to have support with more folks to ease the work
load if we revert to "less civilized" levels even for a short
time. The ultimate decision to continue or start sharing this
information is yours.
5. What if the person I need to talk to is our pastor? What if
he doesn't believe we need to prepare?
- Pastors are people too. Many of us forget that. They can be subject
to denial and fears like everyone else. If you already know how
the pastor feels and it is not a supportive/investigative role
on these issues, I would suggest you contact several other members
to form a moderate-sized, not intimidating group, and talk to
the pastor. Be respectful of his time; set up an appointment.
The point of having a small group is not to threaten, but to indicate
interest in these matters (whether it's Bible prophecy, Earth
changes or whatever) is not isolated.
Churches are supposed to help us, guide us and in the best scenarios,
lead us to viable solutions in every day life as well as in unusual
circumstances. But who is the church? The people, of course! If
your church or your pastor is not willing to look at these issues
and leaves you spiritually unsupported, perhaps it is time to
find a new group with whom to fellowship.
Approach the pastor similarly as in "Fifth, show time!" above. If he still expresses no desire or interest to lead and
support in these areas, ask why this is so. Do not settle for
"squirt out" answers. These are certainly times in which "canned"
responses will not suffice and prayerful answers are imperative.
Ask for specifics and press gently till you get a satisfying answer.
You can point out preparation is something the entire congregation
could participate in bringing everyone closer together, building
Many people dropped out of churchgoing two decades ago because
it wasn't "relevant". Here's their opportunity not only to be
"relevant" but to lead their flocks in a very tangible, much needed
We are encouraged by the number of pastors that ARE leading their
congregations through this potential time bomb and have set new
community standards for contingency planning. Other ministers
are meeting with town council managers and instituting excellent
programs. Let us hope yours is one of these. If not, perhaps it
is time to look for other fellowship.
- Good luck in your discussions and decisions,
Holly and Stan Deyo
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